tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9087764590265443167.post5650997801572116258..comments2023-05-31T04:45:00.313-07:00Comments on Winskillfull Explains It All: Girls & BoysUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9087764590265443167.post-85249391086938805032010-11-14T03:19:08.943-08:002010-11-14T03:19:08.943-08:00Your reply has filled me with anger at the publish...Your reply has filled me with anger at the publishing world, but also hope because it shows that there are other smart, self-aware people out there who don't think we should blindly continue to perpetuate out-dated stereotypes. A big THANK YOU for your post!Winskillfullhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14416819231268815126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9087764590265443167.post-57532479708553600362010-11-13T16:53:53.062-08:002010-11-13T16:53:53.062-08:00When I was working in a publishers (an industry, w...When I was working in a publishers (an industry, which has become a largely feminine run business over the past years, seeing some of the most powerful businesswomen in the world) I was actually shocked by the sheer amount of sexism perpetuated by women themselves towards other women, but also towards men.<br /><br />I worked in NonFiction, which largely dealt with autobiographies, true romance, diets, fashion, sport, spirituality and cooking. Funnily enough the sport department was run by a man and the women of the editorial team took hardly any interest in this sector. <br /><br />One thing that struck me was how we dealt with pregnancy books and books from a 'mother's perspective'. As I was not a mother, but not only that, had no interest in motherhood, I had the occasional 'look down' moment. "When you're a mother you'll understand" was actually muttered at one point. It was the "when" that stuck with me. Why do people assume I *want* to be a mother? Also, what gives mothers the right to look down on non-mothers as inferior or unknowledgeable women. It is as if, when women become mothers, they arise to this exclusive club where they are some how *more* woman than everyone else, as if this is our sole purpose in life.<br /><br />Being a mother does not make you a better woman. If you think that, then you must think we are superior to men because we have the ability to make children? Wrong. Last time I checked we still need them for that. I get a lot of people think that I am a feminist because I am a Pagan and believe in the existence of a goddess. This is feminist perpetuated ignorance. The Pagan faith counts the god and goddess as equals as without one the other has no power. <br /><br />I have also had the lesbian 'stigma' attached to me due to my being what would be considered by the more 'girly' of girls, 'butch'. Why does liking action and horror films, violent video games, playing with toy guns and paint-balling make you 'butch'. More importantly, why does being 'butch make you a lesbian, I know plenty of lesbians who do not conform to the masculine stereotype, because, as you have quite rightly said - they are not 'lesbian', they are them. <br /><br />I hate being looked down on by 'girly' girls and prejudiced men because I do not have maternal instincts, a love of fashion, pink clothes and jewelry. I am me and damned proud of it. You, Kirsty, are not aloneAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com